 International Women’s Day is a time for women to unite and support each other. Motherhood is a really important part of many women’s lives, so as we come together in support of gender equality, it’s vital that we talk to each honestly other about the struggles of being a mom. A lot is expected of us, and with all of the challenges we face as mothers, knowing we have a system of support can make a huge difference. Keep reading to learn a little more about the importance of talking about perinatal and maternal mental health and how therapy to help you become the best version of yourself will also help you be a great mother for your children.
Why It’s Important to Talk About Perinatal Mental Health On National Women’s Day, women have an opportunity to come together and offer each other support, and that includes moms offering each other support. Too often, moms feel like they need to go it alone or that asking for help means they’re not good parents. Actually, asking for help may be the best way to be a great mom. The truth is that millions of women every year struggle at some point as they become a mother from conceiving, carrying, or delivering a child to adoption or fostering, blending families, and parenting in general. That’s why it’s so important to talk about perinatal mental health. When new moms realize they’re not alone, they may feel brave enough to reach out and receive the support they need to be great parents. Whether you’re a birth, adoptive, foster, or step-mom, you are an important part of your child’s life, and making the decision to prioritize your health and wellness is also a decision to prioritize your child. The Benefits of Therapy for Perinatal Mental Health & Wellness For women in need of support to improve perinatal and maternal mental health, therapy offers a range of benefits, including:
Work with the Greater Houston Counseling Services Team If you’re considering therapy for perinatal mental health, we would love to hear from you. At Greater Houston Counseling Services, many of our skilled therapists work with expectant and new moms. If you’re struggling with the transition to motherhood or having other difficulties related to being a mom, please reach out to get started with therapy sessions in one of our three Houston area practices.
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 We’re starting a saying around the Greater Houston Counseling Services office about new year’s resolutions, “Everyone’s got one and they’re all going to be forgotten by February.” Jokes aside, most people give up on their new year’s resolutions the moment life gets busy because they don’t have specific goals or measurable outcomes to achieve. If you’re really interested in making a change in 2021, consider creating a new year’s resolution that’s SMART. This acronym stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely. People who set SMART goals are much more likely to achieve them, so keep reading to learn more about how you can make SMART new year’s resolutions in 2021.
Specific If your new year’s resolution is to get healthier, to make this resolution specific, you need to define healthier. What does it mean to you? Instead of simply saying I want to get healthier in 2021, you may set a goal to lose a certain amount of weight, exercise more often, or change your eating habits. Measurable Once you set a specific goal with defined terms, you need to decide how you’re going to measure your success. If healthier means that you’re going to exercise more often, how do you know that you’ve achieved your goal? Will you be able to lift more weight, run farther or faster, or get up the stairs to your office without breaking a sweat? What result do you want to see once you’ve achieved your resolution? Attainable You want to set goals that are challenging but achievable. Continuing the getting healthy example, if your “measurable” goal is that you want to lose a certain amount of weight, in order to make this measurable goal attainable, you need to set a weight loss goal that makes sense and can be safely achieved. Physicians usually recommend that people don’t try to lose more than one to two pounds each week. So, your attainable goal shouldn’t exceed this, and ideally, you would set a weight loss goal or other resolution that may impact your health with a physician. Relevant Relevance is all about what a resolution means to you. Continuing the getting healthy example, this resolution may seem relevant to you, but if there’s no real “why” to the resolution, you’re unlikely to stick with it. We could all stand to be healthier, but you’ll have a better chance of achieving your goals if you set a resolution that is personally relevant to you. Being healthier may be beneficial, but why? What are the stakes if you’re not healthier? Instead of saying simply, “I want to get healthier this year,” consider the purpose of your resolution. My family has a genetic predisposition for diabetes. I don’t want to develop diabetes, so I’m going to start reducing my sugar consumption. Creating context and relevance for a resolution means you’re more likely to stick with it. Timely Without time constraints, you are much more likely to procrastinate or just forget about the resolution. So, instead of saying, “I’m going to get healthy this year,” set a timely goal like. “I’m going to swap fruit for desserts for two months.” Partner with a Therapist to Achieve Your Resolutions Many people think of working with a therapist as something to do after receiving a specific diagnosis or during a serious life crisis. Actually, therapy can be a great option when you’re trying to make any kind of change or navigating a challenging life situation – no diagnosis required. If you really want to set some new year’s resolutions and work to achieve them, talking with a therapist can offer accountability and support. If you’re interested in finding out more about the role of therapy in helping individuals achieve their goals, The Greater Houston Counseling Services team would love to hear from you. Reach out to us today to get started.  The holiday season is meant to be filled with friends, family, food, and fun. This year, your holiday season may look a little different. A spike in coronavirus disease (COVID-19) cases means that many people are foregoing holiday gatherings, and families are still struggling with the stress of schooling in the home, working from home, and not having the ability to safely reach out to their family and friends for support. It can be hard to imagine giving up all your favorite holiday traditions on top of the added stress that 2020 has given you. Whether the holidays have always been a source of stress for you or you’re worried about the challenges this year will bring, the Greater Houston Counseling Services team is here to remind you that you’re not alone, and there are still plenty of great ways to have a happy, healthy 2020 holiday season.
Take a Breath Many people overdo it at the holidays. You may have a little extra time away from the office, but that doesn’t mean you need to be working overtime on holiday preparations and festivities. This year, more than ever, we all need to give ourselves a little grace and make time for rest and relaxation. That all starts with taking a deep breath. If you feel overwhelmed, stressed, or tired, take a few deep breaths and give yourself permission to take a break. Make New Traditions & Remake Old Ones Even if you can’t throw a huge gathering for family and friends or go to crowded community events, there are still plenty of ways to enjoy the holidays this year. Some ways you can make new holiday traditions and remake old ones include:
Have Small Holiday Parties (Emphasis on the Plural) The big holiday party may be out, but maybe you can substitute a few small gatherings. Hosting small gatherings of less than ten people may be a good option, allowing you to maintain social distancing throughout the get together. Then, make sure to clean and sanitize surfaces after your guests leave. Practice Good Self-Care Finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Staying healthy means making good decisions about how to spend your holidays, but it also means making time to take care of yourself by eating healthy meals, staying hydrated, and getting plenty of sleep. If you struggle with the complex emotions and stresses that often arise at the holidays, consider including a visit with a therapy professional at Greater Houston Counseling Services as part of your holiday 2020 self-care plan. Visit Greater Houston Counseling Services If you’re struggling during this holiday season or just in general, the Greater Houston Counseling Services team is here for you. We offer flexible therapy options for individuals, couples, and families. With a team of knowledgeable counseling professionals in our three Houston area practice locations, just about anyone can find a clinician who’s a good fit to help them achieve their therapy goals. Don’t hesitate to reach out when you’re ready.  As a mother of 3 kids, I have so many concerns for this 2020-2021 school year. Do I send my kids school for onsite learning or do I join the virtual learning movement? Just like most parents in America this school year will bring so many difficult decisions to make. Virtual learning is at the top of the discussion right now, as it should be. It challenges the traditional methods of teaching and provides a safer academic option during the pandemic. Arguably it is also challenging for parents who are not tech savvy as well as it is bringing new obstacles for lower income families.
Ultimately, we must remind ourselves that we are doing the best for our kids. As parents we sit and think about how difficult making the right decision is. We take into consideration not only their academic success, but the societal expectations we face as parents. We selfishly get wrapped up in how hard it is for us to make these decisions for our kids we forget to take a moment and think, “what about our kids?”. They have concerns just like we do, they are after all in school 10 months out of the year. We want their feelings and concerns to be acknowledged and validated. Sometimes sitting down as a family and really laying out all the pros and cons for the family to discuss can bring a new perspective to the decision-making process. It is important that we don’t lose ourselves in the chaos of this pandemic, that we remain united as a family to weather the storm. Whichever decision you may choose, it will be the right one because only you and your child know what you both can handle. Through it all, we must take a minute to breathe. Schools districts, medical professionals and government officials are doing what they can to make sure that every student and teacher will remain safe. They are allowing the parents to decide if they want their child to return to school, have virtual learning or hybrid learning. Companies are also stepping up by offering help to families that may need a computer, internet and meals for kids while they are at home during the pandemic. Although at moments we feel the isolation from quarantine and social distancing, we have so many resources and help from our community and people in our very same situation. We are surrounded by resources. You can contact your school district to see what help is available to families during this pandemic. If you’re not sure how to do at home virtual learning or how to set up your home to feel more like a learning environment, you can always watch YouTube videos on “How to do Virtual Learning” or search Facebook for veteran homeschooling moms tips and advice on how to make at home learning run smoothly. Pinterest is also a great source of information from so many moms who have used this platform as a starting point on how to set up learning spaces in their homes. Who knows, maybe you could start your own YouTube channel or Live Facebook feed to help other parents that are now in the same boat you once were. We are surrounded by resources we just need to do our homework and figure out what works best for your family. It takes a village to raise a child so reach out to your family, friends, coworkers, or your kids friends’ parents to see if they may have any tips or advice. With everyone helping and sharing tips/advice we can ensure we are providing our kids with the best learning solution for this school year.  The world today is a world that will be changed forever and COVID-19 will most likely be a part of our history that we will teach about for years to come.
We now live in a world today where a single cough, or a sneeze or the mere thought of being in a room with someone who appears to be unwell brings about a great deal of anxiety and fear. Bulk buying has become a standard norm now and being in public outside the home amongst people can be frightening too. With such uncertain times that we are facing, its truly an important time to slow down or stop what we are doing and reflect. We are all as a nation being asked by mother nature to stop and halt and reflect on life for a moment in our hectic busy lives. Families are now today having to spend extended periods of time with each other as places of employment and schools have closed rapidly. New routines have had to be adopted as all children across the nation have transitioned to online schooling, which can have its fair share of challenges as parents are also still working from home too. Everything has changed so rapidly over the span of the last month. The current situation has really made the world wake up to a new reality and an understanding of how little control we really have of the situation and circumstances that we are in. However, there are some things that we can control. We can control our thoughts and our reactions to the new reality that we are currently facing. Remember to breathe and put things into a calm perspective. It is important to remember that judging by past historical events, negative situations such as this never remain and the situation always resolves and improves. It’s important to also remember to look for the silver lining in every situation too. We now have time to get back to basics and engage in activities such as playing board games and having meaningful conversations with family members without the time crunch of having to rush to be somewhere or just simply sharing a family meal together. Here are some options for activities that can help maintain some degree of peace and normality during these difficult times: - Going for walks locally - Watching a movie together - Listening to music as a family Spending quality and meaningful time with kids and teens as well as having conversations regarding the current news is much needed too. Remaining optimistic and hopeful with your family members is so vital. Mother Earth is (as described by many today) “resetting things” so that soon enough calm and normality will resume as we once knew it. Please do take a moment to breathe and remain calm, knowing that all will be well again soon enough.  We are now in a new decade! It’s almost like we ended one chapter in our life and began another in 2020.
Many of us find that at some point approaching the end of a year and when beginning a new one, we do reflect back and reminisce on all the great things that we have achieved and the failures that we endured. Knowing and understanding that the failures that we encountered in life are simply life’s lessons that we go through and that we can always take positive steps to make the situation better. Reflecting back on the last decade can also be a good thing too as it can also encourage us to think about the future and what life goals we would like to achieve. The beginning of a new decade is also a great time to actually assess where we are in life and where we would like to be a decade from now. So how do you go about creating these new goals? Well first things first. It’s important to actually visually see your goals written in an easy format and visible to you often. So maybe on a refrigerator or maybe on a notice board at home in your office. But somewhere you can see them now and again. So grab a pen and paper and start thinking about your life. Then start listing categories which are important to you in your life. Such as family, kids, career, vacations, your home, finances, education etc Then next to each important category, write down in a single sentence what you would like to achieve with each of the important things in your life in the next year. Again its important to make these goals achievable and doable. Then after considering each important goal you wish to achieve in the next year, consider what goals you would like to achieve with each of the categories in the next 3 years and five years even! Once you have done that, consider next how and what measures you are going to take to bring about these new goals that you have created for yourself. Just remember that creating new reachable goals is the key to succeeding in future goals that you create for yourself. Small achievable goals are best. Setting your sights on very ambitious goals which are sometimes hard to achieve can result in people giving up and not sticking to them. So remember, the key is to reflect on key points that are important to you, and to think how are you going to make those points better in your life better. It’s wonderful way to reflect on one’s life and to create a positive outlook for yourself. Talking to a therapist can also help you maintain and keep on track with your goals for the year too! Here’s to sending you the very best wishes and success in your life goals for the year!  Part 1
Managing Triggers that the holiday may bring. Holidays are a time when family members often make an effort to set aside time for the family. Spending extended time together that involves family traditions, gift giving and other holiday festivities can be a wonderful time to connect and catch up with each other. But for some, getting together with family can create stress and anxiety. There are many reasons why people do not look forward to holidays. Some examples are certain family members just not being able to connect well with each other, or past unresolved conflicts that haven’t been laid to rest, or even negative memories or experiences in a childhood home can all potentially create stressful situations during a time that should be enjoyed. Some parents of young children in a family can also be made to feel very uncomfortable especially when there is a need to discipline children because different members of the family may judge or have differing opinions as to how to better or effectively parent a child. There are fortunately some things that you can do to possibly minimize the anxiety and stress during the festivities. Have smaller get togethers As opposed to having large numbers of relatives gather together in one home on a set day, maybe take turns visiting with smaller groups of family members in their home for the holidays. This may actually be more intimate and reduce the chances of conflict with certain family who don’t get on. Have smaller gatherings in your own home By having family or friends over at your home, you can actually decide who to invite over at any time, thus avoiding unnecessary conflict. This way, you are more in control of who you are interacting with at any given time which can allow for a much more enjoyable time. Know that there may be some conflict Having a sense of acceptance that there may always be some degree of conflict during the holidays with some family may be a wise thing. Just knowing that some people will always be awkward no matter what you say or do. Take it with a grain of salt if possible and appreciate them for the good qualities that they have. Plan a fun or creative thing to do when together with family Even though typical family events usually involve having a festive meal and conversation together, maybe start a new trend amongst your family and friends by doing something completely different! For example, dinner and a movie at the movie theatre or going to see a live show or performance together. Or you can do something charitable by volunteering at a local church or event as a family together. This could quite possibly take the pressure off conflicting family members and allow everyone to focus their attention on something new and different other than being unkind to one another. No matter how you handle the unavoidable holiday family get togethers always aim to stay calm, take time out for yourself if needed, and know that there are some personalities that cannot change but you love and care for them anyway. Happy holidays! 😊  Welcome to the blog page of Greater Houston Counseling Services and a special 3 part blog mini series on Women’s Health. Women through their lives can unequivocally go through so many changes through the years. Relationships, marriages, pregnancy, motherhood, juggling motherhood and work life are just a few of the challenges that women face daily. Some women are able to breeze through these challenges with ease but for the most part, it can be a stressful balancing act. This 3 part mini series will be looking at the following topics pertaining specifically to women. Part 1 Work life Balance in women There are many women today in successful careers who are working hard and climbing up their chosen career path ladder. They are usually financially successful and work long hours to prove their dedication and expertise in the companies they work for or the businesses they run. But when trying to find a harmonious balance between a working woman and a husband and children entail, it can be very stressful and challenging. Being able to give 100% to your family and your career can prove to be difficult and sometimes we may feel like we are being pulled in too many directions and that expectations put upon us drain us mentally, emotionally and physically. This could end up putting a huge strain on our marriages, family life and our careers. The key to balancing your home life and work life is to organize, prioritize and delegate where possible and allow one to one time in the day or week for loved ones. Some key pointers that you can implement to create harmony and balance in life are as follows:
 Summers finally here! The stresses and strains of daily school are finally over and kids now have time to relax and enjoy summer. This lengthy period of time out of school is a great way for parents and kids to take that long awaited vacation. Or for kids to enroll in some exceptionally cool and unique summer camps which has become
an increasingly popular thing over the years. Some kids however see the summer as a time to indulge in the maximum amount of screen time as soon as school is out to the time they go back for the new school year. It can for some parents pose as a real challenge creating a happy medium between unplugging and plugging the gaming consoles, smartphones and tablets these days. Here are a few tips that you could implement to create some healthy habits for your kids:
Creating healthy technology limits for kids early in their lives is so important. By doing so parents can prevent future issues for kids such as gaming and screen time addictions.  Studies in the past have shown the success to happy and lasting marriage is putting your spouse first. As crazy as it may sound, it is the truth that many are scared to hear. Everyone wants a happy marriage, but not everyone wants to put the work to get there. Life changes when you start having children. From the long sleepless nights to days full of joy, but your marriage should only get stronger as the both of you have created a beautiful blessing. Here’s 2 tips how you can have a successful marriage. Boundaries Prior to becoming parents as a couple you should build a foundation that can never be broken. The best gift you can give your children is raising them through a strong and healthy marriage. That starts off by setting boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important things in marriage. From the start of your relationship you must create boundaries that should never be crossed. Always treat each other with respect. Treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. You should always talk to each other with love and find healthy ways to communicate. Simply put your spouse first Always put your spouse first, this doesn’t mean you have to choose between your child's well being and your marriage. Instead, it means taking the time to intentionally and actively invest in your relationship with your spouse, knowing that when you and your spouse are connected, you are better parents.Also keep in mind you started this journey with each other alone, and once your kids turn 18 and leave off to college, your spouse will be the only one left. Your kids are only with you for a couple decades until they decide to start their own family, you chose your spouse to be with them forever. You must give your marriage the attention and effort it deserves. Don’t ever forget why you chose them to be your partner in life, and don’t ever stop dating your spouse. The moment we have a child, our world changes and our entire focus is on them. We slowly but surely start putting our marriage aside, because who has time or energy to even think about going on a date right? We’re sleep deprived, tired and every moment we get to ourselves we utilize it to clean, cook, do laundry, etc. Both parents must make the time to continue to spend time together alone. Even if it means waiting until the baby falls asleep to have a movie night in the living room with your spouse on a Friday night. Always make sure some time is being spent alone. Children grow up to be the reflection of their home, wouldn’t you want your children to marry someone who's always going to put them first? |
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